We believe that one of the bigger challenges us entrepreneurs face is that of something called balance. We’ve all heard of it, and it’s what winds up driving us crazy trying to achieve it.
But just like we’ve recently learned that multitasking is inefficient and wastes more time than it gains, balance is also a state of mind we’ve been chasing in circles. In trying to achieve the ideal work-life balance over the years, we always felt that we were falling short. But we weren’t – it’s actually because achieving (and maintaining!) that 50/50 balance is essentially impossible: and we need to be okay with that.
There will absolutely be times where more effort is being placed on work vs personal relationships (and vice versa!). What we strive for is to not overload ourselves on either end of the spectrum; there is a give-take relationship between the two and that is our expectation. That’s not to say it’s like that for everyone, but in our experience, there are times where more focus needs to be given to the business side of things, while other times our focus needs to be on our family or personal relationships.
Most likely you have had that sense of feeling before where you just need to reconnect with your personal relationships to refill your proverbial bucket. That may mean that a significant amount of your time and energy lately has been placed on your work life. Whether you travel a lot or are growing a company, there is never a need to apologize for fulfilling your duties. One of our major undertakings this past year has been to stop apologizing for work, and to remind others that there are times when we need to be focused on work a bit more than usual. One of the things that drives us crazy is when others excuse our absence from something solely by saying we’re “busy”. We are not just busy, we are WORKING. We are growing a business and we are self-sufficient. And we will never apologize for that. But you better believe that once the time allows for it, or that feeling that we need to reconnect, we will spend some quality time with family / friends.
We listened to a podcast episode recently titled “Struggling to find balance in your personal and professional life? Here is one thing that will help…” that discusses that balance that we all strive for and if you have 45 minutes or so to spare, we strongly suggest that you listen to it.
One thing that will help progress entrepreneurs and relieve some stress not just from us, but from everyone (as mom life, too, is a job!) is to STOP chasing an equal balance and accept that the ebb and flow of the two worlds will balance out at the end. It doesn’t need to be equal now as then something will drop or someone will suffer. Allow yourself to give your home life your all. Or allow yourself to selflessly focus on your work or business.